
Jill Graves


Jill Graves

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Jill Graves, born February 1, 1960, served in the U.S. Army from 1980-1994. Serving during the Gulf War era, her daily assignments included working in the government's Accounting department as well as being an inspector for government financial offices. On top of her duties, she had to stay up-to-date with weapon and gas chamber qualifications. Some of the positives of being in the army included opportunities to travel, partially pursuing education, and have all medical expenses paid for. Jill's number one positive outcome that she received was the honor of the Army instilling loyalty and discipline in her. Yet, while she experienced positives, she also faced hardships. It was not integrated until 1980, the same year that Jill joined the Army, that females were allowed to fight side-by-side with males. Jill felt that she had to go above and beyond in order to gain respect from her male comrades. Being a female during the times that she served was not impossible, but it proved to be difficult. She was denied promotions and was a victim of physical, mental, and sexual abuse. Going through military sexual trauma was not easy and till this day, Jill is living with PTSD. However, with all that experienced, good and bad, it wasn't enough to keep Jill from breaking barriers once she left the Army. After dedicating fourteen years to serving her country, she rejoined civilian life and the workplaces included. She worked various occupations until she received a disability diagnosis for her PTSD in 2014. From then on, she quit working to continue her studies as a full-time college student. Jill is currently a mother of three children as well as a grandmother to five grandchildren. She graduated with her Associate's degree in Paralegal Technology in January 2016. She will soon be graduating with her Bachelor's degree in Managerial Accounting in November 2021 (J. Graves, personal communication, March 4, 2021).
A selfie of Jill Graves
Jill receiving her Associate's from HCC

A veteran's experience in the workplace
Jill's first job out of the Army was at a Credit Union Bank where she worked in the loan department. While the Army had advanced her work skills, Jill felt like an outcast when she had to meet one job requirement she wasn't ready for: wearing high heels. Transitioning from steel-toe boots to heels proved to be difficult, especially when it opened the door for her co-workers to make fun of her. Being ridiculed and feeling like she couldn't communicate with her civilian co-workers, Jill felt excluded (J. Graves, personal communication, March 4, 2021).

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Jill showing off her heels

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Jill being active with her team members
After spending some time at the Credit Union Bank, Jill moved on to other occupations. She's had experience as:
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a receptionist
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a certified nurses aid
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a prison guard
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a mental health technician
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a convient store manager
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AND a security office
Yet, while she experienced so much in her different areas of work, Jill still felt that she was not fully understood, by civilians, as a veteran. While she wanted to use her skills and not be looked down on, she felt at a disadvantage when it came to receiving the jobs she wanted and not accepting low positions that were offered to her (J. Graves, personal communication, March 4, 2021).

Workplace tips from jill
To better support veterans, at the workplace, Jill suggests:
Tip #1
Training employees on approaching methods. Veterans are sensitive to body language and loud noises, so it would be helpful for civilian employees to gain knowledge and understanding on how to approach them.



Tip #2
Transitioning from military life to civilian life can be challenging. Organizations having a transitional program would be helpful.



Tip #3
Having employee resource groups set up in every organization would be beneficial for veterans to find methods to better communicate with their co-workers.



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(Graves, 2019, https://www.facebook.com/photo?fbid=873500729699016&set=pb.100011172911322.-2207520000..)
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(Graves, 2019, https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=827572327625190&set=pb.100011172911322.-2207520000..&type=3)
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(Graves, 2016, https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=308531096195985&set=pb.100011172911322.-2207520000..&type=3)
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Graves, 2017, https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=443807856001641&set=pb.100011172911322.-2207520000..&type=3)